Molly Ringwald is a mother first, no matter what.

Though the Breakfast Club star admitted to running a “tight ship” when it came to her and husband Panio Gianopoulos’ kids Mathilda Ereni Gianopoulos, 22, and 17-year-old twins Adelle Gianopoulos and Roman Gianopoulos dating, she did reveal the advice she’s given to her eldest.

“The dating advice I always give her is just to be herself,” Molly told E! News at the premiere for the new film One Night Only in New York City Aug. 3. “And also to respect yourself and not to do anything she doesn’t want to do. 

As for Mathilda, who joined her mom and younger siblings at the premiere, had her own interpretation of this advice.

“Oh, she’s like, “No second chances, don’t put up with all that,’” The Idea of You alum laughed before pulling her mother in closer for a gentle hug. “I feel like you’re very strict.”

Beyond relationships, Mathilda and Molly—who stars as the mom of Callum Turner’s character Owen as he navigates an alternate reality where single people can legally have sex once a year—made it clear there was nothing more special than a close mother-daughter relationship.