Everybody in the Backstreet Boys knows that the importance of family is larger than life.

Though they’ve been hitting the stage for three decades now, bandmates Nick Carter, AJ McLean, Brian Littrell, Howie Dorough and Kevin Richardson—stressed that becoming fathers has reframed how they look at their careers.

“It’s something that we all share,” AJ—who shares daughters Elliott, 13, and Lyric, 9, with estranged wife Rochelle McLean—exclusively told E! News at The One Party by Uber in New York City June 12. “We all now know about balance. Obviously, family comes first. We try to balance our work and our personal lives. We all spend quality time together when we’re on the road with our families.”

Dad of two Kevin concurred with his sentiments, saying, “Having kids has changed all of our lives for the better.” 

As Nick—who shares kids Odin, 10, Saoirse, 6, and Pearl, 5, with wife Lauren Kitt Carter—put it simply, “We do everything for our children, now.”

In fact, Howie—who shares sons James, 17, and Holden, 13, with wife Leigh Dorough—pointed out that becoming fathers has made them all more “selfless” as they navigate life.